This is all "First Lady Hair" for the most part it does not move. EVER. Your windswept, post California girl, "theta at USC", unkept look wont cut it inside the beltway... back to the Tippy Hedren bun for you!
And really, something I didn't think I would ever type, BUT , you are MUCH to old for the j.g.l. hairdo... and the thought of it, is a little bit icky.